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Anyone who consistently reads my articles on NickYoungXXX.com I hope can agree that I rarely if ever use this forum for the purpose of stirring up porn politics and am not interested in attacking people for attention. Today however, I do request your attention as I want to address a very serious matter that affects every one of us.
Domestic abuse, assault and violent crimes are serious issues that should not only be addressed but made public record in order that the people surrounding perpetrators of multiple violent crimes can take steps to protect themselves and others. I’m positive that any victim of such a crime would agree.
Instinctively we will try to protect the people that we care about and sometimes we feel that by keeping people’s proverbial “dirty laundry” a secret that we are protecting them and others from embarrassment, or decide that something is not our business. When someone we care about is being hurt or hurting others, it becomes not only our business, but becomes our social responsibility to protect others. It’s the right thing to do. That being said, I am compelled to air out some dirty laundry.
Wednesday evening at HERE lounge, I was in attendance as were many people celebrating friend's birthdays, going aways and other occasions. I was leaving for the evening when I was directly approached by Trent Locke.
To be brief about the circumstances of my relationship with Trent, he has been in my periphery for several years. Knowing the facts, I don't find him to be a stable person of honest character and as such, I have deliberately steered clear of him out of respect for our mutual friends and industry associates and in a sincere desire to avoid drama and mind my own business. Several people who are friends with both Trent and I can attest that though I have not kept my discomfort a secret, I have made an effort to not spread gossip.
Wednesday night as we were standing amongst acquaintances, Trent confronted me about my noticeable distance, stepping in front of me as I was making an effort to leave the bar for the night, blocking my exit. Wishing to be truthful when he asked me why I avoid him, I simply stated that I am uncomfortable around him and have nothing to say and that I was trying to be polite. This made him noticeably angry as his face turned red and he struggled for the words saying something to the effect of "Oh...well I guess I can understand that too" and as I turned to walk away he shouted "What a BITCH!"
Now coupling my desire to escape a physically uncomfortable situation with frustration at his insult, I decided to take the high road and not indulge in a public confrontation that would serve no purpose but to gratify my adrenaline in the present, embarrass me in the future, and knowing what I do about his past behavior, what could I say that might trigger him to start hitting me. I hoped that in walking away, I would find myself less upset in the morning...but today I am still angry.
Apparently I am a “Bitch” because I have gone out of their way to avoid confrontation and drama with persons who have a history of problems with both. I'm a Bitch because I don't like you Trent? Someone call Merriam-Webster’s and the Urban Dictionary because the definition has been amended! Feelings were clearly hurt on both sides, but I chose to walk away knowing your history, and you Trent chose to react emotionally, irrationally and in an effort to tear me down in front of others. Verbal and physical abuse may be your self-defense mechanism, but it doesn’t make it okay.
Call me what you will folks, a chicken, a wuss, a peace lovin' whinny hippie, a GIRL; I don't care, but I’m angry now because I was angry and afraid then and said nothing. I have been the victim of a violent crime in my past and am very sorry to admit that I never reported it. I have distanced myself from that individual, but never stop wondering if he’s hurt someone else because I never spoke about it until years later. Not speaking up out of a desire to save face or mind your own business can find its self an accessory to future crimes. I only bring up my past to clarify my empathetic motivation to educate and protect others.
It is with no shortage of personal difficulty and professional trepidation that I have decided to share with you copies of Trent Locke “aka” (TMZ already published his legal name in print, else I would have no part in it) Ryan Purdy’s multiple prior restraining orders requested by former partners that detail his abuse and were executed by law enforcement. The Protected Person's names and addresses have been removed in order to protect their privacy as the details provided are disturbing. These priors were involved in the court's decision to drop any and all charges against Steven Daigle and I hope by shining light on Trent's public record, it might protect someone else in the future.
If you or someone you know is either being abused or abusing someone themselves, help the victim take action and aide them BOTH in receiving the kind of psychological and physical help that they need. Violent crimes, bullying, rape, assault and domestic abuse are not acceptable actions in any environment and reporting them IS the right thing to do.
PS: I may find myself rather unpopular after I publish this post, but I stand by it and offer up the following suggestions for names that you can call me: Snitch, Taddletail, Rat, Blabbermouth, Busybody, Stool Pigeon (that's my favorite), Senorita Nosey-Pants, Who? and of course BITCH...since we've amended that definition  .
*A direct quote as presented to us by a source who wishes to remain Anonymous. The subject of conversation was his much publicized fight with Steven Daigle*
December 10th 2010
"4:58:12 PM ryanpurdy: yeah, but nobody cares about the truth"
  
Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project:
Hotline and Information:
1.800.832.1901
http://gmdvp.org
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